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February 2023 Goals
The first month of 2023 is over – WOW!
With that, it’s time for me to set my smaller goals for the month of February in order to advance my objectives for the year overall.
- Read 14 books
February is a great time to do time-based challenges because the month is so short. With some time away from work and some dedicated reading and audiobook listening, I hope to clear a book every two days or so this month. Considering I read a 400-page novel in a few hours the other night, I think this one is totally doable and will set my reading goals up even better for the rest of the year. - Post 5 YouTube videos
I currently have 7 YouTube videos on my content calendar for the month, but I totally acknowledge at least one of those will probably drop at some point. I did some really useful topic generation and brainstorming last week to help beef up my content calendar, so I think it’s set me up well for the month. - Finish 2 quilts
I currently have two quilt toppers that need basted, quilted, and bound. I’m really proud of myself for having gotten both sets of toppers done but the events I wanted to gift them at are quickly approaching and I want to make sure they’re ready to rock and roll by then. - 80+ miles in training
Considering I have a marathon the first weekend of March, I’m really hoping to get my training in a good spot and get everything squared away to feel prepared for that race - Lose 5+ pounds
I’m trying to make some better food-related decisions as well as incorporating more activity throughout my day. I’m really devoting myself to walking on the treadmill for work at least every day, so we’ll see how that shakes out in keeping me active.
All in all, some exciting goals moving me forward this month – stayed tuned!!
- Read 14 books
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Doc Student Update – January 2023
As I enter my final semester of coursework (AHH!), I figured that I would give you all an update as to how my doctoral process is going.
My last course is an advanced methods course offered online (as I am NOT traveling back and forth to Florida for classes another semester) in survey methods. As someone who literally programmed an entire survey for a sample of 25,000 in about fifteen minutes today with advanced display logic and branching, I think it’ll be a pretty simple class to end my coursework. In writing this blog post, I realized that I still hadn’t checked for any required textbooks for a class that starts on Monday – I’m nerd enough that I had already bought the exact book I needed for class when I started my new job. My boss and I also joke that I can always ask for help with my homework during our one on ones if I get stuck, since he’s a trained survey methodologist. Researcher perks, I guess.
Also in the month of January is the first of several major doctoral hurdles over the coming year and half: my comprehensive exam. My department technically calls them our “preliminary exam” or “prelims” but I feel like every other department in the world calls them comprehensive exams or comps. The Saturday before MLK Day, we’ll all get access to a prompt and be required to respond with a 25-page paper (including references!) that addresses the prompt while providing context and understanding gleaned from all of our core and major classes in the program. As I’m a Higher Education PhD student, that includes the four core classes within the department plus the additional FIFTEEN CLASSES I’ve been required to take to fulfill my coursework requirement. Thankfully, I don’t have to utilize every single course (other than the core four) and I’ll be relying heavily on my methodological courses to write part of the paper.
The good news is that my employer has given us MLK Day off completely and my boss and I worked out some half-days for me in the middle of the week so that I can get this dang exam passed on the first try. Though a lot of people talk about taking the entire week off for comps just to focus on them, I’ve been working full-time this entire degree program and have been balancing work, coursework, marathon training, and hobbies the whole time. Honestly, I’m the person who struggles when I don’t have a routine, so it’s going to be critical for me to have some sense of normalcy for me to be able to focus properly. I’m hoping to have everything wrapped up that Friday so I can turn it in early, but I guess we’ll see!
We should hopefully be getting the results of our comps back by the end of February to determine if we’ve passed and can advance onto candidacy to start writing our prospectus proposal for our dissertation.

After my literature review class last semester, I have about 40 pages of my first three chapters already written. As you might be able to guess from the name of the course, my literature review (or Chapter 2) is the beefiest of the three. But I’ve got some good progress on my introduction chapter (Chapter 1) and my methods are coming along as well (Chapter 3). I’ve had some good conversations with my chair about both my study design and the conceptual frameworks I plan on utilizing, so those are some of the areas I want to address right away when I get into edits.
I also have the rest of my committee chosen, which is great news for me! My chair is who I was assigned to when I first started (like we don’t have a ton of overlap methodologically or topically) and I know he’s not going to let me slide through with a shitty study; even though I don’t want to be an academic, we’ve both come to an understanding about the rigor and thoroughness that I want to uphold throughout the whole thing, even if just for my own mental well-being and satisfaction. I have someone else from the department who is serving as my methods person (after I bounced around between a few options in methods before landing on collective case study) and another from the department who is serving as my in-department topical person (not directly aligned with my exact research topic, but definitely knowledgeable on something very similar). I also managed to secure my outside discipline person as well, who I worked with in my first full-time job after my Master’s program. As I’m studying internships, I thought it would make sense to look for someone who had knowledge about internships and internship courses, and one of my departmental internship coordinators checked all the required boxes to serve on my committee from the Graduate School and was super-excited to join in!
Right now, I am hoping for a first-round pass on my comps (I can get a second attempt in May if I don’t pass the first time) by the end of February, a prospectus defense in July or August 2023, and a final dissertation defense the last week of April 2024 (and a technical, on-paper graduation in August 2024). I really want to stick to this timeline because it means I could attend our departmental hooding ceremony in-person that only happens once a year during the Spring graduation week, and I want to be able to be there with my friends and colleagues to celebrate.
I have a pretty aggressive calendar/schedule built out for the entire process, but it also currently gives me a lot of time for flexibility and edits as I approach the dissertation defense. One of my goals for the year is to also track the amount of time I’m devoting to my prospectus and dissertation, starting with at least 7 hours a week that increases to 10 hours a week as I actually get into the meat of my study itself. I’ve also determined that I work best on my dissertation-related stuff from the library at my undergrad, so I’m trying to get up there at least two or three times a week to get stuff done. I also have time blocked off two nights a week to start as if I’m enrolled in a “Prospectus Writing class” by myself; just having it on my calendar means I’m more likely to do it, especially when I have a boatload of reminders and notifications that go off to let me know when to head to the library. Finally, some friends and I are working on finding a time for a writing group each week, just having some hours set aside to write on Zoom from three different states along the East Coast and get these damn things written.
All in all, I feel like I’m in great shape here at the start of 2023 as I’m making progress on finally getting those three letters at the end of my name. Ask me this time next year if I’m still as excited, and hopefully that answer will stay the same.
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First 12-Week Year of 2023!
As someone who has been an adherent follower of the 12-Week Year since late 2020, it’s always a delight to set up a new 12-Week block and figure out my goals for the next few months. Though the antithesis of the 12-Week Year’s emphasis on 12 weeks being the new year, there is something even more exciting about getting to really launch a new cycle at the beginning of the calendar year.
For those unfamiliar, the goal of the 12-Week Year is to laser-focus on goals for a much shorter period of time than the usual 52 weeks of the year, as most of the movement tends to happen as the year is winding down and we sprint through Q4. I use the 12-Week Year rather loosely, as I use it to track my three primary goals for the year as well as their appropriate tactics. In addition, I’m really bad about developing tactics that are one-off but instead focus in on tactics that will advance me through their persistent completion within the 12 Weeks.
For extra accountability, I’ve linked this 12 Week Year’s spreadsheet HERE. As I work towards my goals through the next 12 weeks, I want to make sure I’m hitting my goals, objectives, and tactics. And, if not, I want to make sure that someone else can see my slacking.

As I mentioned that I use my 12-Week Year to focus on some larger overarching goals, I should probably tell you what they all are, right?
In order to achieve my long-term goal of losing 50 pounds within 2023, I have several habits and tactics within my health and fitness goals.
- Weigh myself every day
- Walk at least 10,000 steps a day
- Workout 5 days a week (at least 15 minutes or 1 mile each time) – this also includes some additional tracking for both time and distnace
- Strength/resistance train at least once a week
- Do full-body stretches or yoga for 10+ minutes at least 3 times a week
- Do plantar faciitis stretches every day
- Drink 3 water bottles each day
- Track calories in MyFitnessPal every day (with no lying or fudging)
In order to continue my growth in both my academics and my career, I’ve chosen to focus on the following tactics
- Work on homework, research, or read articles for 15+ minutes daily
- Spend 7 hours a week focused on prospectus and/or dissertation
- Do at least 2 study sessions outside the house each week
- Complete 2 Focusmate sessions each work day for work tasks
- Strategically plan for the following week each Sunday
To advance my side hustle and work towards YouTube monetization by the end of the 2023, I have the following goals to work towards
- Spend at least 10 hours a week on writing, filming, editing, and pbulishing tasks
- Publish a video each week (primarily on Sunday)
- Publish a blog post each week (primarily on Thursday)
- Create and post at least 2 Instagram posts each week
Finally, I have some assorted quality of life tracking that I’d like to continue throughout the 12-Week Year.
- Read for 15+ concentrated minutes daily
- Work on crafts/fun projects 3 days a week for at least 15 minutes
- Do Jeopardy study for 15+ daily
I know that there’s a ton to work towards, but as I seek to make 2023 Tory the best version of myself so far, I know that these goals are achievable!
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2022 Craft Wrap-Up
It’s so exciting to look back on the projects I finished in 2022 as well as seeing what’s in store for 2023. My major project of this year was a behemoth of an undertaking, and I’m so happy that looks as beautiful as I had dreamed!
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YNAB Budget with Me – December 2022 Paycheck #2
Time to budget the last paycheck of 2022! I talk through my budget as it stands, as well as some goals and objectives for 2023.
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2023 Running and Race Plans
After a good race at Rocket City, I’m ready to get my 2023 running and race plans solidified!
So far, I have four races on my calendar in 2023 that I’m really looking forward to.
First on the docket is the Myrtle Beach Marathon the first weekend of March. The 2023 race is a deferral from a post-Covid pull from the 2022 race weekend earlier this year. Thankfully, the course has a 6.5-hour time limit, so I think even maintaining my training throughout the next few months will get me across that finish line.
The first weekend of May, I’ll be taking advantage of a 2020 deferral – the Flying Pig! I’ll be doing the 4-Way with Extra Cheese; the mile race Friday night, both the 10k and 5k Saturday morning, and the full marathon Sunday morning. This one also has a long time limit (about 7 hours), so I think I’ll be in good shape. In addition, this is what I’m considering my “goal race” for the spring season, so I’m actually doing a Dopey training plan in advance of this race. It means I’ll kind of be shoehorning in Myrtle Beach onto a random weekend in the middle of the plan, but I think the multiple races over multiple days is something I’ll have to get my body used to again. Only two mornings of early wakeups instead of the four for Dopey, but I can still use the miles on my legs!
In mid-June, I’ll be doing a local 50k on a rails-to-trails that I’ve been hoping to finish for quite some time now. I did the 25k the first year, had to drop out of the 50k the year after that, and wound up DNS-ing the 50k this past summer because I was ill. I’ll just be doing this one for completion, not for any records or speed, so I hope it’ll be a fun one!
Keeping up my training for the 50k will also keep me building up my base pretty well as I lead into my next training cycle that will start around the Fourth of July.
My true “goal race” for 2023 is redemption at the Marshall University Marathon in West Virginia. That’s the only fall race I’ll be targeting, and I really want to make sure that I’m giving that as much dedication as I can. After having to drop at mile 15 in 2021, I’m out to cross West Virginia off of my list and definitely want to do it at Marshall. The good news is that I won’t have to fly in this go-around, since I’m now living within driving distance, so my mom and I can just head on down there after work one day.
Throughout my training for all of these races, I hope to hit a yearly mileage total of 1,500 miles (or 125 miles a month). I have some other fitness-related goals to keep up with this mileage, like doing stretches for my plantar fasciitis and keeping up with general stretches and strength training.
All in all, 2023 is shaping up to be a great year for running and I’m looking so forward to it!
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2023 Financial Goals
Check out my financial goals for 2023 – nerdy, but so excited to see what’s in store!
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Rocket City Marathon 2022 – YouTube Race Recap
Check out a video version of my race recap for the Rocket City Marathon 2022!
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Rocket City Marathon 2022 – Race Recap
Let’s call it a comeback! After a failed marathon last fall, I’ve finally completed my first full marathon in almost two years. Little Rock was in March of 2020, the week before everything started shutting down here in most of the States. This past weekend, I redeemed myself and had a finish in Huntsville, Alabama, with the wonderful Rocket City Marathon!
My trip started out eventfully Saturday morning (I originally was supposed to fly out Friday but had to make some itinerary adjustments due to family commitments) as I got sick on the way to the airport. I think it was a weird combo of heartburn and caffeine after waking up at 3am, but that was thankfully the only thing that derailed me. Still made my Atlanta flight just fine, but then we had a late pushback AND had to get de-iced. Wound up delaying us by over half an hour, which ate into the entirety of my buffer time for my Atlanta layover.
As we landed, I had to ask several people who were just chilling to move and I finally got power-walking from A to C terminals. Thankfully, there was a crew of folks making the dash to the same Huntsville flight from some other late-arriving planes, and we all made it. I had a couple loudly disagree with me about which seat was actually the window seat, but they were already so settled-in and it was supposed to be a quick puddle-jump, so I just took the aisle seat.
Unfortunately, it was not a quick puddle-jump.
Because the visibility was so crappy in Huntsville and it was such a short flight, our push-back kept getting delayed. We were originally supposed to leave Atlanta around 8:30 but wound up leaving closer to 10:30. The crew was great and kept us updated the whole time, every fifteen minutes or so, and the flight attendants brought around some water and snacks after about an hour. I wound up getting a lot of writing and some reading done, so it worked out for me.
The actual flight to Huntsville was uneventful, and the airport was clean and easy to navigate. I picked up my rental car in no time at all, headed for the expo, got myself parked, and made it into the VBC Hall. When I first got there, it was a bit of a cluster. There was a line death-spiraling in on itself that nobody really knew what it was for. After standing in that line for a few minutes, me and a few other people realized it wasn’t the right line for our races. I got my bib, t-shirt, and race packet pretty easily, just had difficulty balancing it all without a bag or anything. Since I wasn’t planning on using gear check Sunday morning, I didn’t necessarily need a bag for that, but even a leftover Wal-Mart bag would have been useful.
I looked around at the vendors and everything, but didn’t see anything that really sparked my interest. I really wanted to buy a finisher’s technical pullover, but they were dated with 2021, so that was a bit of a bummer. Either way, I headed back to the car pretty quickly, and went for my traditional pre-race carbo-load at Olive Garden. Chicken and gnocchi soup, breadsticks, and fettucine alfredo are always the go-to; however, I forgot the lunch sizes aren’t available on the weekends, so I got the full portion and wound up boxing a lot of it for a later reheated dinner.
Got settled into my AirBNB, took a little bit of a nap after only getting three hours of sleep the night before, and walked over to Dairy Queen to get a Blizzard as a Saturday treat and froze the rest for a post-marathon treat. I had the rest of my Olive Garden, took a quick shower, and got myself settled into bed pretty early so I could get as much sleep as possible.
That amount didn’t wind up being a ton of sleep, but it’s fine. I wound up waking up around 4am, with a precautionary 4:30 wake-up call from my Mom in case I overslept. At that point, I was already wide-awake, hydrating, and mostly dressed. I was extremely liberal with my Vaseline application because of the projected rain throughout the race, and I played around with the distribution of all my things in my race belt.
I headed out around 5am because I didn’t want to be late for the early start. I wound up parking in a further lot than I had the day before, but the one I had scoped out didn’t open until 5:30am and I didn’t want to have any chance of cutting it close. Because of my early departure, in true Tory fashion, I was early to the early start.

It was a little breezy with sprinkling rain every so often as we got ready for the early start. The good news is that we all were camped out under the awnings of the VBC until about four minutes until race start. There were some good pre-race announcements and reminders (“Have fun!” and information about not passing the six-hour pacers until a specific points on the course), and then off we went.
The six-hour pacers at the front were doing a 2/:30 interval, which I wish I would have known ahead of time. I usually do longer intervals (2:30/2 in this case) so I wound up rubber-banding with the front cluster of folks for the first three miles or so. I completely missed the first mile marker, but it was an easy warm-up. We were all supposed to have lights of some sort for both safety and visibility, and a woman next to me had the most intense headlamp I’ve ever seen and it was incredible.
By about mile three, I was chatting with some folks nearby as we started to fall off the six-hour pace pack. Though I had wanted to hang with them for as long as possible, my heart rate was already starting to spike and I knew that I was going to be in a world of hurt if I pushed it too hard in the first 10 miles. Instead, I happily chatted with the other early-starters nearby and we all were in a surprisingly good mood for how early it was.
Just after mile 4, there was an entire neighborhood dressed up as Wacky Waving Arm-Flailing Inflatable Tubemen, so that was definitely a pseudo-hallucination before I realized it was actually happening. That gave me a great laugh just before 7am, and I went into my second hour in a pretty great mood.
There was some more happy chatting with other nearby runners, some wisecracks with volunteers, and profuse thanking of the traffic control folks throughout the race. At around 7:45, the first regular-starters started running by, which is always both demoralizing and uplifting. Even though they were working their asses off, so many still took time to say great job or offer fist-bumps or high-fives.
The amount of runners surrounding us really picked up at around mile 8 as both Front Halfers and full marathoners started dashing by. Just past mile 9, we ran through a park and past a bunch of trains. A group of guys nearby and I wound up shouting “I like trains!” almost simultaneously, so that gave me a great laugh.
It’s also important to mention my nutrition and hydration plans throughout this race, because I think that’s where things went sideways during the Marshall Marathon. My goal was to take a gel every four miles or so at whatever aid station was nearest to that point, and I took salt packets at every single water station in between. After the first three aid stations or so, I wound up taking two waters at a time – one to get my gel or salt packet down and one to just drink to rehydrate. It wound up working throughout the entire race (spoilers!) and I never felt myself bonking nutritionally or getting light-headed or dizzy or anything that had been a concern in previous races or training runs.
To be honest, as a full marathoner, I completely forgot that the Front-Halfers were actually going to be with us for the full front half. As mile 11.5 hit and I could see the VBC (where the full marathon finish was), I couldn’t make the mental math check out and allow the half marathoners to finish in there. Instead, as we past mile 12 and approached mile 13, I finally remembered that they had a separate finish for the Front Half. Oops. This was also the point in the race where I started doing mental math or pulling out my calculator every mile or so to determine how much buffer time I had between me and the 7-hour pacers. It still seemed at that point that I had buffer time, but it was way too close for my liking and based on my past race performances, I knew that I would start slowing down in the back half.
As the Front Halfers pulled off to their finish and the full marathoners kept going, I gave my mom a quick call to update her on my progress. She was tracking me on the app, and it turns out it was giving much more granular tracking than I had expected – enough that my mom said she could tell when I was on my intervals because my moving speed went up enough to notice. As I hung up, I pulled out my headphones and got myself situated with my punk rock Pandora station.
There was a stretch between miles 13 and 15 or so where the overpasses and hills just were brutal. As someone from Western PA, I know that they weren’t all that bad, but they definitely felt like mountains after the halfway point in the marathon. A guy who was clearly cramping up after the undulations and I were joking that most marathon courses seem to stack all the big hills in the back half to not frighten off the half-marathoners.

Running through the UAH campus was pretty quick, but it also gave me a few downhills to work with and some great tunes to keep my legs turning over pretty quickly. Even though my overall pace was slowing down a bit, I still had the get-up-and-go in my legs to do some brief running segments to pick up the pace.
As we approached mile 18, we could see the US Space and Rocket Museum come into (relatively foggy) view. It was still sprinkling, and running on some overpasses had chilled us off a bit. Some folks had set up a food-ish station right before entering into the Museum grounds, so I snagged some pickle juice and some pickles. Sadly, I saw some empty two-liters of Coke on the ground, which I had been craving since about mile 8.

I snagged a selfie with the Saturn V, which was the whole objective of this trip, if I’m being honest. We also got to run past the Space Camp facilities and through the back section of the Museum grounds. From there, we took a turn down a back path that connected us to the Botanical Gardens. One thing I hadn’t seen mentioned anywhere was that the displays for the holiday light show were all up (unfortunately not on, tough). As there were some tough sections in the Botanical Gardens, it was really nice to have something to distract myself with as we ran by.
Just after we hit Mile 20 in the Botanical Gardens, Bohemian Rhapsody came on my Pandora station and that was probably the most bad-ass I felt throughout the entire course. I came up a hill before the last aid station in the Gardens, and I felt really strong. Just after that, I gave my mom another call to update her on my progress. She was out to lunch with my brother and had her phone out on the table so the app was keeping track of my progress – I found out later that when we hung up, my brother was like “Why does she DO this??”
The last five miles or so weren’t particularly bad when it comes to the course itself, but mentally was where I started fighting with myself. I knew I had about 15 minutes of buffer between my moving pace and when the 7-hour pacers were supposed to cross the line. Mile 22 in particular was rough, as we were just going down a straightaway in one neighborhood with a church doing an aid station and then a turn down another long straightaway. Mentally, this was the point where I started asking myself how much I could really slow down. It also didn’t help that I was eating slightly stale M&M’s from the aid station, so I really had to concentrate on not choking on those.
At Mile 23, I wound up switching to the music that I call my “secret weapon” because I could feel myself mentally flagging – a Spotify playlist full of marching band stand tunes and covers. Most of them have a BPM that’s really good for the speed that I was moving, and they just bring my heart joy. It wound up working, because each of my last three miles was faster than the last.
The most frustrating part of being a Back of the Packer is that regular people get irritated that the race is still happening. I totally understand wanting to let people through when possible to not throw off their usual routines, but the amount of cars just cutting through the course or somehow coming around corners they shouldn’t have been able to access was a little scary. I only had one headphone in for the majority of the last five miles, just because I knew we were starting to get to the point where people were making their own decisions without a care for those of us still out there trying our hardest.
At the bridge just before Mile 25, I could look off to my left and see the folks trickling into the back of the VBC where the finish line was. I found myself doing more frequent run intervals and looping around the last mile or so of the course. As we approached the last loop around the the lake in Big Spring Park, I pulled out my truest of secret weapons – every time I feel myself flagging as I approach a finish line, I turn on the recording of the popular music show the year I did college marching band. As I listened to those songs, I found myself getting teary-eyed as I circled the lake.
Ever since my HS diagnosis last year, I wasn’t sure if running marathons was still going to be a possibility for me. After having to drop out of the Marshall Marathon in 2021, my self-confidence about long-distance running had dropped further and further. But as I rounded the corner at Mile 26 to loop around the back side of the building, the only thing I felt was strong.
Was it a fast finish? Hell no. Was it a hard-fought finish? Yes. Was it a strong finish? Hell yes. The amount of both physical and emotional strength that takes you to the finish line in a marathon can’t be understated. For Rocket City, I had to lean into the emotional strength more than I would have thought but it makes the finish even sweeter. My last .2 miles were at a 13:30 minute per mile pace, which is probably the fastest I’ve ever done that little chunk of distance in a marathon finish.
As I rounded the corner into the VBC, they announced my name and that I was from “Tallahassee, Florida” (oops, forgot to update my race registration after I moved). That got a “Go Noles!” from the announcer, I did a Chop after I crossed, and got my medal and space blanket from some lovely volunteers right away. I got my finisher’s gloves and then made my way back to the food section. Thankfully, they had bags here that I could throw some of my own items and my chosen snacks into. Again, a BOTP problem, but all the pizza was gone by the time I got there. Bummer.
I hobbled out the door, down the STAIRS (who DOES that??), across the park, and back into the parking garage where I had left my car that morning. I carefully slid myself in, plugged in the address of my AirBNB, and gave my mom a call as I headed back. Along the way, I stopped at McDonald’s and got myself something to eat for later and the large Coke that I had been craving for hours.
All in all, I finished in 6:45:30. That’s faster than Little Rock 2020, Louisiana 2020, OR Mississippi Gulf Coast 2019, and the fastest I’ve finished a marathon since Oklahoma City in 2018. I’m proud of myself for getting across both lines upright and with forward progress, and I’m excited to see where my marathon training takes me in 2023.

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YNAB Budget With Me – December 2022 Paycheck #1
See below for my first published YouTube video!